Helping Each Other Out

I am a white privileged woman and part of me feels ashamed to write that, but should I be?  My dad grew up in the Bronx by two parents that were far from perfect.  He spent his life working hard to get where he is. and he fought so we could have a good life.  He worked two or three jobs to be able to provide for us and I am truly grateful for that.

My husband has also spent his life working and studying hard so he could provide for us.  He made a list of his goals in life and did everything he could to mark each one off.

Yet, I have also spent my life feeling an ache in my heart for those who were not as fortunate.  For those who do not have the same opportunities are my parents or my husband and I simply because of their skin, religion, gender or sexual orientation.   I have great empathy and compassion for others.  It is easier for me than many, to imagine what life must be like for those less fortunate.

Today I live in a middle-upper class neighborhood with a very poor and underprivileged town next door.  I have a friend who works for the school system there who tells me stories that are absolutely heartbreaking.  She has taken it upon herself more times than not to try and fundraise so she would be able to provide for her students.

This year is like no other and many schools are struggling.  Our schools can provide Chromebooks for ALL students and I am sure 90% of households have internet to do work at home.  Yet less than 2 miles away there are kids who do not have internet, electronics, a parent at home to help them, or even a steady home for that matter.  These kids are turning to gangs and drug dealing instead.  They do not realize that the path they are now on will most likely lead to a life in and out of prison.  It brings tears to my eyes just thinking about it.

I always wonder why we do so much fundraising at our schools when it seems like our kids have everything.  Do they really need another party?  Why can’t schools that are so blessed fundraise for schools who are less fortunate and show our kids how to take care of others?  We do a toy drive near Christmas but why not something for school?

We are weeks away from an election and most politicians are going to make promises to get votes, but do they REALLY care?  Sadly, no.  They are very privileged and care more about their donors then they do the American people.  If we cannot rely on our government to help who can we rely on?

Any chance I get I try to give to those who are in need.  We should all be trying to help out our fellow humans in any way that we can.  It should not matter what color, religion, gender or sexual orientation someone is.  We all deserve a good life.  We need to stop this division, anger, hate and simply try to have a little compassion and love.  Our world will be better if we each do one little act of kindness for someone else.  Love can spread quickly.  We can make our world better by not relying on the media or politicians to tell us what to think or feel.  If we just count our blessings and try to share that with others our world will be better off.

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I am a mother of three children who is trying to fulfill all the ‘traditional’ ideas of a stay at home mom. I am a cook, maid, shopper, chauffeur and the laundry lady. I am also their protector, mentor, religious educator and guidance counselor. I have chosen to raise them in a Catholic household.

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